Would you love to learn how to navigate life securely, be confident enough not to let people take advantage of you and finally understand the dynamics of love? I hope yes, because this article shares top rated self help books for women.
Reading books and getting to understand the meaning behind them has always been my hobby since a young age. I strive to let people know about books that could change their life and improve self growth.
Self discovery and personal growth requires you to understand yourself and gain knowledge from others that have experienced the same situation as you.
Being a kind and nice girl, with a sweet soul can leave you in vulnerable situations. Hence why I recommend these top rated self help books for women, on navigating love and relationships.
You will gain knowledge on the type of person that you are, your attachment style, the type of people that you attract, definition of love, and how to navigate life armed. Kind of an invisible sword.
Below is a list of ten top rated self help books recommended on love that will change your life, especially as a woman.
I have grouped them into two:
- Psychology on love to guide you on discovering yourself and understanding your attachment style.
- Definition of love to help you understand what love is, how to give and receive without expecting what those around you can’t provide. Eventually, how to be confident and set healthy boundaries.
Self Help Books for Women on Understanding Love Addiction
1. Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel S.F Heller.
Quote:
“It is very important that you be compassionate with yourself. The worse you feel about yourself, the more you'll want to go back to the false safety of the bad relationship you were in. Your attachment system gets activated more when you feel bad about yourself.”
Excerpt from self help book Attached by Adam Levine.
The authors to this self help book are both mental health professionals, a physchologist and phychiatrist. They mention three disctint behaviours that human beings acquire: anxious, avoidant and secure.
Most anxious people tend to be attracted to the avoidant personalities, a relationship that cannot work or rather will face alot of issues. After reading the book, you will gain awareness on your patterns and needs, then give you tips on how to address them securely.
It also teaches about how to navigate different personalities and avoid facing repetitive issues in relationships or ending up attracting just one type of behavior group.
2. Facing Love Addiction by Pia Melody.
Quote:
"Like all the other defense mechanisms, delusion is invisible to us, making it a serious problem: we don't know we are deluded. We live in an unreal world based on our delusions, but we see that unreal world as reality. Because we can't afford to hear the facts about our lives as they really are."
Excerpt from Facing Love Addictions by Pia Melody.
Some people tend to be love addicts and find themselves in different relationships but with the same kind of personality. If this is you then this is for you.
This book is a slap in the face for people that were loved less when growing up and end up having avoidant partners. Something they do not realise as it happens subconsciously. It helps you understand how you are and why.
3. It Didn’t Start With You by Mark Wolynn.
Quote:
"By developing a relationship with the painful parts of ourselves—parts we have often inherited from our family—we have an opportunity to shift them. Qualities like cruelty can become the source of our kindness; our judgments can forge the foundation of our compassion".
Excerpt from It Didn't Start With Us by Mark Wolynn.
Some people tend to be love addicts and find themselves in different relationships, but with the same kind of personality. If this is you, then this book is for you.
I find its details a slap in the face for people that were loved less, when they were growing up. It leads to one having avoidant partners without realizing it, subconsciously.
This novel will help you understand how you are, and why.
4. When You Are Ready, This Is How You Heal by Brianna Wiest.
Quote:
The path forward is understanding that we are sometimes collateral damage to people’s own inner wars, and that we do not need to adopt their weapons as our own in order to fight back.
Excerpt from This Is How You Heal By Brianna Wiest.
I highly recommend this self help book for women in their 20s, or rather all women and girls in their healing era. This book will be phenomenal to them, a best friend to the soul, filled with affirmations and kind words.
I find it to be a read that touches one soul and helps you to heal your inner ones. It takes you through the process on how to heal how to protect yourself if you keep on going back and eventually pressing on forward.
This should be a diary gifted to all women, and a selection for books to read at night.
Self Help Books For Women on Definition Of Love
5. Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Agrov.
Quote :
“Before sex, a man isn't thinking clearly and a woman is thinking clearly. After sex, it reverses. The man is thinking clearly and a woman isn't.”
Excerpt from self help bookWhy Men Love Bitches by Sherry Agrov.
This self-help book is an important read for all women, especially the kind of girls that love unconditionally. The word bitches is used to mean a strong and empowered woman that believes in herself and works on her values.
The author hit the nail on the head in this book as it gives perspective on why men are attracted to bitches and take advantage of nice girls. It also explains the difference between nice girls and the self independent bitch (woman).
6. I Love Me More by Jenna Banks.
Quote:
"Always trust your intuition, even when it makes no sense.”
Excerpt from self help book by Jenna Banks.
I love me more is written by a woman who shares her experience on how she saved her own life. It talks about what self love is and how to get there.
Moreover, it emphasizes that you should stop giving all your power away and embrace your own value.
At the end, you will find yourself acquiring a new self-esteem feeling, be motivated and become more aware of the capabilities.
7. Conversations On Love by Natasha Lunn
Quotes:
"Love is not something you find, it’s something you practice".
Excerpt from self help book Conversations on Love by Natasha Lunn.
This book is for those that feel lost in life. It covers conversations about love in all aspects, romantic platonic, family and even grief
Love is explained in a way that you get to relate with, stories and experiences of people have been included to give a better understanding.
Reading it, you will go through stories on how we find love, sustain it and eventually lose it.
8. 8 Rules Of Love By Jay Shetty.
Quote:
"The difference between loneliness and solitude is the lens through which we see our time alone, and how we use that time. The lens of loneliness makes us insecure and prone to bad decisions. The lens of solitude makes us open and curious. As such, solitude is the foundation on which we build our love."
Excerpt from 8 Rules Of Love By Jay Shetty.
One rule of love is about allowing yourself to be alone and feeling confident in your solitude. I personally love Jay Shetty and his advise about life.
Read this book if you would like to find a conection with your partner or just discover yourself and eventually have healthy relationships around you.
Bottom Line:
Self Help books on love are amazing, they can help you discover yourself in a deeper maner. Whether you are going through a heartbreak, are in your healing era or would just like to learn how to set healthy boundaries, get yourself a copy of the books above.
If you’re going through or would like to start a personal development and self growth journey, but you need guidance on how to start, learn tips on how to maintain healthy daily habits, read our article on personal development HERE.
